Free Playbook
Steal the 9 Rhythms Our Family of Eight Actually Runs.
Most Christian fathers don't need more information. They have more of it than any generation in history.
What nobody hands them is the operating system: what to actually do at 6:15am, at the dinner table, on Friday night, and in the twenty minutes before bed.
This playbook is ours. All nine rhythms, word for word — the practices, the prayers, the exact questions. From a father of six. Nothing held back.
Steal every one of them.
No fluff. No hype. Just a biblical blueprint.
The Distinction
This isn't another parenting book.
You won't get
More information.
You will get
The nine rhythms, word for word.
You won't get
A 90-minute perfect-dad morning routine.
You will get
Fifteen minutes that survive your worst day.
You won't get
Theory about leading your home.
You will get
The one question that ends the 'we're a family, not a business' fight.
Inside the Playbook
RHYTHM 01
The Daily 15
A morning that starts on your terms, not your inbox's. A year from now, a different man at the table.
RHYTHM 03
The Weekly Leadership Meeting
A wife who trusts your leadership because she's watched it hold under load. Date night finally gets to be date night.
RHYTHM 04
Sabbath
A weekly hour where the phone goes dark and the whole house remembers Who it runs on.
RHYTHM 05
The Training Block & the Obedience Game
First-time obedience the first time you ask. A calmer table. A father who coaches instead of corrects.
RHYTHM 07–08
The Word at the Table & the Popsicle Stick Prayer
Children who pray out loud like it's ordinary, because in your house it is.
SCORECARD
The Household Scorecard
Your red row in two minutes. Your one rhythm to start tonight.
The Takeaway
What You'll Walk Away With
Not inspiration. Not a checklist of good intentions. Nine practices you can run this week, in the words we actually use.
The 9 rhythms, word for word
The Friday Sabbath prayer
The one question to ask your wife that surfaces what to fix first
The Obedience Game
Your household scorecard, marked
One clear rhythm to start tonight
I wasn't simply raising children.
I was building a household.
That's the realization that started Reforming Fatherhood.
Your Guide
Chris Cirullo
I spent years learning how to lead. First as an Army Ranger with the 75th Ranger Regiment. Then helping build venture-backed software companies, where I learned how organizations grow and how culture is formed.
Then I'd walk through my own front door.
I knew how to lead an organization. I did not know how to lead a home.
That realization sent me on a years-long study of Scripture, formation, marriage, and household leadership. Reforming Fatherhood is the result — and these are the same nine rhythms I install with the business-owner fathers I coach, tested daily in a house with six kids.
The Diagrams
Plate I
Two Houses
What is not built deliberately is still being shaped.
Plate II
Formation Never Stops
Every influence is forming your household — the question is which voices are given weight.
Plate V
The Practice Loop
Disciples are formed in the rhythms of life, not moments of inspiration.
Plate VIII
Consistency Compounds
Intensity creates a moment. Consistency builds a life.
Begin Here
Steal the Playbook
If you're ready to stop improvising at home, start tonight. Nine rhythms. Twenty minutes to read. Yours free.
Psalm 127:1
"Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain."